Instead, they assume he likes them and are able to be present in the relationship and enjoy it without being weighed down by fears and doubts. Confident people realize if a relationship falls apart it’s because it wasn’t right, not because they did something wrong.
Not everyone is a match and sometimes, two people are just incompatible.
She may obsess, analyze, and replay every interaction in an attempt to uncover what she did wrong. Healthy personal boundaries and high self-esteem go hand in hand.
She may know on a conscious level that it simply wasn’t a match, but deep down she holds on to the destructive belief that she was the problem…and that she is unlovable and the guys she wants will never want her back. Having strong boundaries means you prioritize your needs and your emotions and do not assume responsibility for someone else’s needs and emotions.
Now I feel like growing a bush to try and hide my lips! Just because some guys think this way, doesn’t mean they all do. Even though seedy quack operations like the Vagina “Institute” (no link for them, they’re assholes) will tell you that vulvas like yours are “abnormal,” they’re not. Every day we are inundated with letters from women saying they can’t orgasm — and you want to make sex less pleasurable or even painful.
Self-esteem doesn’t come from blowing kisses to your reflection in the mirror or repeating “I love myself” over and over.
It made me feel really self-conscious about my own, even though I never have been before. What I thought was normal is actually “kebab-like”!!!! And it would involve a lot of ranting and swear words. We hate to say it, but yes, there are plenty of guys out there who, like your pal, use terms like “roast beef” or “kebab” to describe what they consider to be “ugly vaginas.” (Ignoramuses!
Anyways, as I have never really seen many vaginas before, I decided to Google “ugly vaginas.” I was curious about what an ugly vagina actually is, and whether mine was one of them. There were images of “beautiful” and “ugly” vaginas. The correct terminology for external female genitalia is vulvas, not vaginas, so we’ll be using that from here on out.) We wish we didn’t live in the kind of world where sexist idiots come up with insulting names for female anatomy, but damn it, we do, and much as we’d like to lie to you and tell you that all guys are just happy to get access to any vulva, no matter what it looks like, we can’t.
The Vagina Institute in particular compares the two. These same guys will probably tell you (if you ply them with enough drinks) that a so-called “ugly vagina”, where the inner lips protrude beyond the outer lips, looks that way because the woman has had too much sex.
The “beautiful” ones have plump outer labia and you can’t see the inner labia poking out from them…but the ugly ones are just like mine, when you can see the inner lips slightly. I hate to think of my ex and future partners being turned off by my vagina, especially as I try to keep it neat by trimming and waxing! And this is why they find “imperfect” genitalia a turn-off — it makes them think the vagina has too much “mileage.” What the double-standard fuck? Sex does not make your labia “grow.” Let’s say that one more time: The size and shape of a woman’s labia has nothing to do with the number of notches on her bedpost. Here are ten things you should know that may help you fight the good fight.